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Creating Harmonious Relationships
A Practical Guide to the Power of True Empathy
By Andrew LeCompte

    This book provides new and improved skills in helping understand and resolve conflicts.
     It is a MUST READ BOOK for everyone."
                    Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi, founder and
                    director M. K. Gandhi Institute for Nonviolence

Creating Harmonious Relationships reveals the unconscious root cause of interpersonal conflict and then shows readers how to transcend it using a set of highly effective interpersonal communication skills.

The book is firmly grounded in contemporary understanding of the mind. Social psychologists, led by Dr. John Bargh at New York University, have recently demonstrated that virtually all (99%) of our decisions are made unconsciously by automatic processes in the mind. This is startling. Although we think we are in conscious control, we are not.

One of the most significant of the automatic decisions made by the mind is whether to like or dislike someone. The mind makes this decision pre-consciously within 250 milliseconds on the basis of prior cultural programming. If your mind decides to dislike a person or their action, you are led to misunderstand or even fight with that person.

These automatic, unconscious decisions produce needless conflicts for virtually everyone, millions of people who would much prefer to have happy relationships with the other people in their lives.

There is a solution. You can learn to consciously override your automatic decision-making process, and this book shows you exactly how to do it. Using clear language and entertaining examples, the book teaches you how to consciously improve any and all of your relationships. It shows you, step by step, how to:

Become aware of when an unconscious decision is heading you toward unhappiness
Use conscious override to create a positive connection instead
Listen effectively to find what the other person is really feeling and intending
Identify the unmet expectations which cause feelings
Understand the purpose of feelings
Manage feelings, particularly anger and guilt
Not take other peoples' attack language personally
Speak powerfully without judging, coercing, or attacking
Carry out challenging communications
Resolve conflicts while enhancing relationships at the same time

The author, Andrew LeCompte, is widely recognized as a state-of-the-art consultant in conflict resolution education. In Creating Harmonious Relationships he combines the latest psychological discoveries with his twenty years of experience training people in corporations, colleges, couples and families to communicate more effectively and more lovingly with each other.

Praise for Creating Harmonious Relationships

"A powerful, spiritually uplifting, simply and clearly written book about healing our relationships."
Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D., author, Love is Letting Go of Fear

"Now, more than ever, the quality of our lives depends on a transformation in our understanding of what it means to be truly human. And developing empathy leads the way. Andrew LeCompte's book will support you in making this quality a reality in your daily life, helping you to create powerful relationships full of joy, connectedness and freedom. And that's quite a combination!"
Tom Crum, author, The Magic of Conflict

"Andy's book is a breath of fresh air in a negative, cynical world. Using easily applicable models and skills and dozens of real-life examples, he encourages us to focus on the other person's GOOD intentions, overriding the 'judge' in each of us who looks for the negative. We desperately need in our society today to focus on positives, and Andy has shown us how to do so by choice, not by chance. Thank you, Andy, for the learning, goodness, and joy you bring us all in your book."
Barbara Glanz, professional speaker and author of The Creative Communicator,
CARE Packages for the Workplace, and CARE Packages for the Home

"An excellent tool for reversing the ill effects of anger."
Sylvia Clute, trial attorney, co-founder and Chairman of
the Board of the of the former WomensBank, author of Destiny

"Andrew LeCompte shows, step by step, how to take responsibility for creating relationships that really work."
Robert Gass, Ed.D., creator of the Opening the Heart workshops

"This book contains the keys to a happy, healthy, successful life. I highly recommend it."
Vernon M. Sylvest, M.D., author of The Formula.

To Order The Book
This book is currently out of print
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Creating Harmonious Relationships
Publisher: Atlantic Books
ISBN: 0-9672741-6-8, 5.5"x 8.5", 256 pages, paperback

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     Andrew LeCompte
     1079 Montalona Road
     Dunbarton, NH 03046

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